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We have finally made it through January, which seemed to drag on forever, only to come out on the other side in a jungle of heart, flowers, and fuzzy pink things! If you are like me, I have never been a huge fan of Valentine’s Day, even when I am madly in love with someone. In the past if I was single, it just helped me rationalize my irrational fear that my personality was too big to be in a relationship. If I was in a relationship I felt an irrational pressure to make everything perfect, then overwhelming anxiety when I couldn’t afford it because I was a student or things didn’t go as planned.
During this month, I think I am going to focus on taking a step back and letting myself breath. Holidays should be fun and simple, but we have a habit as a society to let ourselves get swept away in all the fuss to the point where we start dreading these celebrations. I am challenging myself to focus on other types of love this month in the spirit of Valentine’s Day!
♡ Philia Love: I have so many incredible friends in my life, but as adults working towards careers, we don’t always prioritize spending time with each other. This month I want to make sure I am putting more effort into showing my friends that I love and care about them, even if it’s just writing on their Instagram post or shooting them a text.
Then for actual Valentine’s Day a couple friends and I are going to get all dressed up, go to Chick-fil-a, and see a movie!
♡ Storage/ Familiar Love: My sister moved to Montana and I am not always great at calling her to check in. So another goal for me this month is to make sure I am calling family members, who are not close enough to see, to check in on how they are doing. Everyone likes to know that they have family and friends who care about their wellbeing and I never want my loved ones to feel alone because I was too wrapped up in my life to pick up the phone.
♡ Philautia Love: Self-love! This is the most important type of love and should be given the most attention, especially in a month where people tend to be a little less nice to themselves. I am going to make sure I get enough sleep this month and that I do things that I love. I am going to take bubble baths and not answer texts when it feels overwhelming. I am not going to let other’s walk on me or let myself think bad things. So wear the pretty dress! Exercise! Go dancing! Eat the cake! Figure out what it is that you love and make it a priority!
It probably sounds cheesy, but being alone doesn’t mean you have to be lonely, especially on a holiday! Make fun and simple plans with your friends on Valentine’s Day. Maybe buy yourself that shirt you keep eyeballing or those gorgeous flowers you passed in the grocery store to reward yourself for all the amazing things that you do. Don’t forget, you’re doing great!